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Fear is Yesterday

by Robert Holden



IN 1989 I OPENED THE FIRST Stress Busters Clinic, paid for by the

National Health Service, in Great Britain. Over the next few years I

worked closely with people who suffered from stress, anxiety,

depression, heart disease, cancer and AIDS. The clinic quickly gained

an excellent reputation. We won government sponsorship; the BBC

broadcast a thirty-minute Stress Busters TV documentary; and my book

Stress Busters became a bestseller.



If I could sum up what I learned, it would be: fear is the root of

every illness, every pain and every problem. Look behind every stress,

angst and anxiety and you will find fear lurking there. At a certain

level, there are no problems, only fear; there are no illnesses, only

fear; there are no conflicts, only fear; and, there is no devil, only

fear. Heal the fear, and you rediscover your freedom.



Fear is frightening! Even more so if you refuse to look at it. Fear

plays tricks on your mind. Perception is easily fooled by fear as it

conjures up a hell, magics away all hope, and makes illusions of

powerlessness. Fear
will dress you up as a victim of the world. Yet

you are not a victim of the world; you are the light of the world.

Your light cannot be diminished by any amount of fear.



The most important thing to understand about fear is, fear is

yesterday. When you are totally present, the mind is perfectly clear

and whole. There is no split, no fear, no doubt and no angst. When you

are afraid, it is because you are not present. Fear is always

referencing the past. Fear is always counseling you against the perils

of "
now" because of something that happened once "before".



Fear is yesterday. For example, I have counseled women who were

afraid to start dating again, not because they couldn't find anyone

but because their last relationship was so painful.



Fear is yesterday. I have counseled men who were afraid to commit

to marriage, not because there was no love, but because their parents

had divorced and they were afraid of the same fate.



Fear is yesterday. I have counseled people who gave up carpe diem

for cynicism and defensiveness because of unresolved hurt. Defenses

always hide old wounds and old fears.



Fear is yesterday. I have counseled financially well-off people

who habitually overwork, not because they need to but because they

once had no work, or because they grew up poor.



Fear is yesterday. I have counseled people who were afraid to

start anything new, not because they had no talent but because of past

failures and recriminations.



Fear is yesterday. I have counseled people who were afraid to be

happy now, because the last time it all ended in tears.



Fear is yesterday. I have counseled people who resisted feeling

well again for fear of more pain, more heartbreak and more illness in

the future.



Fear is yesterday. I have counseled people who do not follow their

dreams because of old self-doubts, old self-criticisms, old beliefs

and old fears.



According to the fear lobby (the one inside your head), fear is

necessary, fear is good, and fear will keep you safe. In fact, fear is

your one and only obstacle to joy. When you give up the belief that

fear is necessary, you are letting go of the inner oppression that

causes all pain. Healing is release from fear.



Fear is an inside job. It is a form of "small thinking" - an ego virus

that blocks inspiration, impairs vision and causes countless errors of

judgment. It betrays an allegiance with ego and not your Unconditioned

Self. Fear is not in things; fear is in the meaning you give things.

Hence, fear vanishes when you ask your higher mind to reinterpret all

your perceptions, thoughts and meanings for you.



Be present; be powerful. Face your fears and let go of yesterday.

Whenever you are in fear, ask yourself, "Is this fear a fact, or is it

just a fear?" Remember this - a fear is often a fantasy experienced as

real.



First, feel the fear.

Second, say, "Thank you for sharing!"

Third, open yourself up to inspiration, soul guidance, a higher

thought and God's help. Fear is always a call for help.